>>7764That's great news. Here are some general pointers from someone with 2 young kids:
* The first three months are the hardest and you, as the dad, should do whatever you can to hurl yourself in front of the travails your wife faces. Find a way to step in during the night-time feedings, whatever those will look like for you. Change all the diapers. Be the point-person for pediatrician appointments. You will feel way overworked but your wife will feel like her entire fucking life is being sucked out from her and like screaming death is merely seconds away.
* You will find yourself screaming mad very often in the next year, and the most important thing you can do is to put the baby down somewhere safe and go have your scream and then get on with it.
* Don't drink or do drugs. Get an effective nap trick dialed in.
* You will feel ten thousand intrusive thoughts about the dangers posed to your baby and you should deal with them pragmatically. Not every intrusive thought and not every one is right, either.
* Get good at folding tiny clothes.
* Guilt everyone you can into setting up recurring phone appointments with you and/or your wife. Most people will flake and fail you, but the few that don't belong in your will and deserve to be the baby's godparents. I can't overstress how much the isolation eats at you in the early months.
* For either parent staying with the kid, the early months are a fucking prison sentence and every excuse to get out of the home is a godsend. Please do everything you can to generate those for yourself and your wife.
* Consider what you might do for childcare support in truly desperate circumstances, and then do it preemptively. You will need it in some dire strait and you actually need people to know that you need it before the dire straits arrive.